Family Emergency

Susan, my condolences for your loss. We will miss you, but now is the time to be with your family. Take all the time you need.

Susan

You have my condolences as well.

When you get the time to read this, I want you to know I lost a daughter in 1994 at age 26, so please take all the time you require.

We all understand.



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"Arrogance in Politics is unacceptable"
Jim Callaghan
Minden, Ontario
705-286-1860
www.misterc.ca

Susan and Jesse, not to worry. Our hearts are with you, and we'll get a long just fine for the time being. Go. Be with your IRL family.<p> I've lost both parents in the last couple years, so I understand your loss. My sympathies to you and your family.<p> <p>---<br>"History does not repeat itself, but it does rhyme" Mark Twain <br />"The greatest price of not participating in politics is being governed by your inferiors." Plato

Our prayers are with you and your family Susan. Take all the time you need, and take care!

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Dave Ruston

My condolences to you and your family Susan. I lost my brother when he was 29, I can understand in some way. Take all the time you need during this difficult time. Your family is in my prayers.

Kevin Gagnon

Susan & Jesse, I also wish to offer my sympathies, and hope that all goes well in the next few weeks. This site will certainly go on, but family is the most important area of all our lives. So we certainly understand this crisis. God bless you all
Catherine

Condolences to you and your family, Susan and Jesse. Take whatever time you need

Susan and Jesse,
As part of your Vive family I want you to know I\'ll be sitting right here waiting for your return whenever you both are ready,

In time the light will shine again,
Peace be with you,
4Canada

I thought people were living longer.... It sounds like many here have had to deal with unlikely scenarios.....sorry about that.....people may not want to elaborate about what caused these deaths, but I find it perturbing that people die at all, let alone young....

Susan and Jesse,

Condolences, of course. I, too, feel your pain. I lost two of my closest friends in the last two years or so.

I\'ve noticed you\'ve made several posts since this notice went up, Susan. Please don\'t feel any obligation towards this site until you\'re ready.

With you in spirit and may time mend your hearts.

-Kory

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Kory Yamashita

"What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
-Oliver Wendell Holmes

Perturbed, you always make me smile, even about this sensitive issue; I have experienced many deaths in my family, my Dad when he was 37 yrs, a brother at 23yrs...indeed it seemed very sad and senseless at the time, but we all have a time...In my opinion, we are here to do a job, a mission if you will, for some of us it will only last a minute, as in miscarriage or still birth, for some it will take forever, like my grandmother who is 102 yrs and has been waiting to go for a long time. She can\'t figure out why she can\'t go yet, and I really believe that she isn\'t going because she isn\'t done, she has something to do, maybe something to reconcile, maybe someone to meet and give a nudge, or allow someone to care for her and thereby learn from that experience.

I know people say that when someone young dies it is such a waste, but how can you really judge that, no one really knows what lies ahead or the reason for the death. I especially think it\'s difficult if you only believe in the here and now, but if you can except that there is something after this than death is not so much the end as the beginning of another journey. I read a poem once about the birthing process, the unknown that the little being his heading for,... out of the warmth and darkness that they have known for all of their lives and bang into the cold harsh world, that we know as life; perhaps it is the same with death.

So although death is great sorrow for those of us left behind it is the beginning of a great journey for those going forward; before my brother died he once told me he thought it was probably the ultimate \'high\', I hope it was for him and I hope it will be for all of us!

just a little reflection
Catherine

Well my friend, 'young' is a relative term. I'm unsure what took my paternal Grandparents, but they were gone before I was 12. I barely remember them. My mom's father died of heart problems before I was 18. My Grandmother lasted until my 30's - tough old girl We put her beside her husband at our family homestead, where we have kept our ancestors for 300 years; on a hillside overlooking a harbour in Nova Scotia.<p> My parents had me and my sister later in life, so when my father passed away, I had not turned 30, and he was 73. Heart attack due to smoking. But it wasn't suddenly we that lost him, it took nearly a month before his organs shut down due to lack of oxygen.<p> Mom was a different story, but the same cause. 60 years old and Smoking since she was 16 - she was a 'hand' model, meaning her hands were featured in many cigarette ads. One of the 'perks' of the job was free smokes. You guessed it, lung cancer took her. 6 Years of pain, and the last few months were the worst, mostly due to the effects of the radiation. But it was 6 years I didn't have with my Dad. I'm in my mid 30's, too young to be an orphan.<p> So, in my eyes, they were too young to go, I was too young to see them go - but aren't we always? They had a pretty good run, but I'm way too young to be the oldest member of a family who's history I can trace back to the 1300's. Young is extremely relative.<p> <p>---<br>"History does not repeat itself, but it does rhyme" Mark Twain <br />"The greatest price of not participating in politics is being governed by your inferiors." Plato

Well said, C sharp!<p> I was on a very dark road a number of years ago, somewhere between suicidal and homicidal, until I discoved a book on the subject; The <a href='http://archive.ala.org/booklist/v99/fe1/45macmillan.html'>Encyclopedia of Death</a>(1989). It's not as macabre as it sounds. It's filled with thoughts and views on how different cultures deal with the death of it's members. Views on natural, assisted and accidental death, causes and remdies for the living. Although the name of the book leads you to think it's about that, it's really about life. Funerals and other rituals related to dying aren't for the dead, they are for the living and helping them cope with the loss. I light a candle on my parents birthdays, not for them, but for me.<p> Death is the inevitable result of life. I'm not scared of living; why should I be concerned or preoccupied with dying? This view lets me get the most out of life. The book is chock full of quotes that are both funny, and make you think. One that I remember off the top of my head (I'll post more when I get home):<p> <blockquote>"I'm not scared of dying, I just don't want to be there when it happens." Woody Allen<p></blockquote><p><p>---<br>"History does not repeat itself, but it does rhyme" Mark Twain <br />"The greatest price of not participating in politics is being governed by your inferiors." Plato

Thanks Catherine. I do believe that people can chose to have a \"Mission,\" and that some are better suited than others for certain tasks, but I personally think the concept of \"Pre-determination\" is overrated. I mean, if we can influence our life spans by not smoking, driving safely (or not at all) and exercising regularly, then I don\'t see why modern science won\'t eventually do some things that most people would find quite unbelievable.

People have been trying to live forever (or at least longer) for centuries, using products that were mostly ineffective. Our society is obsessed with death in many ways. To read about people who are obsessed with life, visit this site: www.imminst.org